Today is the first Saturday of the month so it’s time for the Ultimate Coffee Date with Deborah and Coco! Today is the perfect day to sit down and have a virtual cup of coffee ’cause I’ve got a lot on my mind and I’d love to talk to you about it over coffee! So go ahead and pour a cup and get comfy.
If we were having coffee I’d want to share this post of Tina’s and talk about how hard this whole Mom gig is.
If we were having coffee I’d want to tell you that sometimes I give in one time too many the same day I read one of those articles about all those things your kid should be doing by themselves (or spend too much time on social media) and worry that I might be raising a spoiled brat.
If we were having coffee I’d tell you that sometimes I go over my daughter’s lunch account with her and learn that she bought a cookie or ice cream for a friend whose pet died or who got a bad grade and was upset and my heart swells. I’d tell you that sometimes she spends her allowance to buy gifts for her friends.
If we were having coffee I’d tell you that sometimes I think that age 11 is gonna kill me and that sometimes age 11 is the best ever.
If we were having coffee I’d tell you that dealing with a middle schooler’s attachment to her phone is up there with walking stadium steps on the day after leg day.
If we were having coffee I’d tell you that sometimes when I go through her phone the messages she and her friends send each other touch my heart. I’d tell you that her meme selection is hilarious and that I love her gifs.
If we were having coffee I’d tell you about the time I had to stop and swallow half a cup of coffee when I was talking to another mom about some middle school drama the girls were dealing with and her reply was, “girls are just bitches, that’s all there is to it”. Because if I didn’t rely on that old counselor trick (swallow your words with your coffee) I’d have gone off.
If we were having coffee I’d tell you that attitudes like that mom’s are the same ones that cause people to make nasty troll comments like in the post I shared above. But I believe in better. I’m raising better. And from what I’m seeing I’m not the only one.
If we were having coffee I’d tell you about the day that we took a couple of our daughter’s friends to the beach and how lucky I was to be able to overhear their conversations. The best part? The two friends of my daughter were acquaintances of one another and became friends that day.
If we were having coffee I’d tell you about the mom at Walmart whose kid was having an epic meltdown and the glares and muttered comments she was getting. (Just as an aside, it’s Walmart, if you can’t handle kids having a public meltdown you should probably shop elsewhere. Or go at midnight or something. ) She looked like she was about to cry until I said “Hey, it happens. Been there.”
If we were having coffee I’d ask how you’re doing with this mom thing. ‘Cause it’s really flippin’ hard. And some days are better than others. But if we support each other it’s a whole hell of a lot easier. I’d love to know something you’re feeling good about and maybe even something you worry about! But I’ll warn you, mean girl BS is not welcome.