Today is the first Saturday of the month so it’s time for the Ultimate Coffee Date with Deborah and Coco! Today is the perfect day to sit down and have a virtual cup of coffee ’cause I’ve got a lot on my mind and I’d love to talk to you about it over coffee! So go ahead and pour a cup and get comfy.
If we were having coffee I’d want to share this post of Tina’s and talk about how hard this whole Mom gig is.
If we were having coffee I’d want to tell you that sometimes I give in one time too many the same day I read one of those articles about all those things your kid should be doing by themselves (or spend too much time on social media) and worry that I might be raising a spoiled brat.
If we were having coffee I’d tell you that sometimes I go over my daughter’s lunch account with her and learn that she bought a cookie or ice cream for a friend whose pet died or who got a bad grade and was upset and my heart swells. I’d tell you that sometimes she spends her allowance to buy gifts for her friends.
If we were having coffee I’d tell you that sometimes I think that age 11 is gonna kill me and that sometimes age 11 is the best ever.
If we were having coffee I’d tell you that dealing with a middle schooler’s attachment to her phone is up there with walking stadium steps on the day after leg day.
If we were having coffee I’d tell you that sometimes when I go through her phone the messages she and her friends send each other touch my heart. I’d tell you that her meme selection is hilarious and that I love her gifs.
If we were having coffee I’d tell you about the time I had to stop and swallow half a cup of coffee when I was talking to another mom about some middle school drama the girls were dealing with and her reply was, “girls are just bitches, that’s all there is to it”. Because if I didn’t rely on that old counselor trick (swallow your words with your coffee) I’d have gone off.
If we were having coffee I’d tell you that attitudes like that mom’s are the same ones that cause people to make nasty troll comments like in the post I shared above. But I believe in better. I’m raising better. And from what I’m seeing I’m not the only one.
If we were having coffee I’d tell you about the day that we took a couple of our daughter’s friends to the beach and how lucky I was to be able to overhear their conversations. The best part? The two friends of my daughter were acquaintances of one another and became friends that day.
If we were having coffee I’d tell you about the mom at Walmart whose kid was having an epic meltdown and the glares and muttered comments she was getting. (Just as an aside, it’s Walmart, if you can’t handle kids having a public meltdown you should probably shop elsewhere. Or go at midnight or something. ) She looked like she was about to cry until I said “Hey, it happens. Been there.”
If we were having coffee I’d ask how you’re doing with this mom thing. ‘Cause it’s really flippin’ hard. And some days are better than others. But if we support each other it’s a whole hell of a lot easier. I’d love to know something you’re feeling good about and maybe even something you worry about! But I’ll warn you, mean girl BS is not welcome.
-Kristen
I love every age of my kids and hate it 30 minutes later! Middle school is so hard…hard on them way more than me, I have to remind myself sometimes! Trying to focus on the positive and giving eachother grace…even that woman who said an off-handed comment- perhaps she was in her 30-min off phase, and had you had a conversation 30 minutes prior, she would have said wonderful things…we never know, so letting each other off the hook is often the only way to be- Love the image with the words!
Your daughter sounds like a sweetheart so I’d say you are doing this mom thing just right. I’d also say if you think 11 is hard wait a few years. LOl Thanks for joining for coffee today always great to have you
Your daughter sounds like a wonderful human! You are obviously raising her well!
If you think 11 is bad wait until 14! But it sounds like you are raising a compassionate, caring young lady. Great job! And girls are mean…unless you raise them right. We had a rule in my house…treat others as you would want to be treated. I think my girls turned out pretty darn good (soon to be 21 and just turned 18).
I can’t really relate because I’m not a mom myself, but your daughter sounds really sweet and awesome. I hope she continues to grow into a spectacular, kind, caring woman.
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The Mom thing is hard, and it does not get any easier as they age. Our oldest is out of college (living half a country away from us), our middle child is a junior at college, and our baby is a senior in HS. I still worry about them, their situations, their struggles, their friends, and their decisions.
Can’t relate, because I’m not a mom, but your daughter sounds so sweet! Sounds like her parents are doing something right. 😉
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Aww, thanks!!
I feel like I’m never going to stop worrying!
Reading this post made my heart happy! Being a mom can be hard, and I care way too much about what other people think of me. Hearing “Hey it happens. Been there.” always helps. It’s one of my favorite phrases – for parenting, running, you name it. Empathy goes a long way.
Kim W recently posted…Ultimate Coffee Date: April 2018
Thank you! It’s mine too- so simple to say and takes less than a minute but can totally turn someone’s day around. Kindness, it costs nothing so throw that sh*t around like confetti!!!
Awww, thank you! That’s my goal too… if it doesn’t kill us both 😉
Golden rule all around- hopefully most of us are enforcing that at home!
Awww, thank you!
Aww thanks!! No scares though 😉
Yes! Loving every age and hating it as well!! But every age has been my favorite yet. Thanks!!!
Aww, your daughter sounds like such a sweet and thoughtful lady–you’ve certainly raised her well! <3
Awww, thanks Farrah!