Hey There Friends! It’s the beginning of the month so it’s time to link up with Deborah and Coco for the Ultimate Coffee Date! Since we’re all really good at virtual coffee dates these days, go ahead and pour a cup so we can chat!

Y’all know when a sports team refers to a month as a “growing season”? July was a growing season for me. Girlie’s birthday was amazing. But after that… well, it was a month.
If we were to meet for coffee I’d ask if you ever have those months where it’s just… growth. Struggling, growing, learning… unpleasant maybe but necessary.
If we were to meet for coffee I’d share that the last week of July was especially a mess health wise. I had a bit of a maybe toothache on Sunday and woke up with the entire side of my face swollen and sore on Monday. I had a teledoc appointment and we decided it was likely a sinus infection so started antibiotics. The doc told me that if it wasn’t better in a couple days to see my primary care, and that if it was back to a toothache to see my dentist. Which it was… I wound up having a root canal on Wednesday. The endodontist (root canal specialist) told me it was one of the worst abscessed teeth he’d seen and was either impressed with my pain tolerance or… just considered me to be an idiot. Either way, it’s finally feeling better. I’ll admit that I was dreading a dental procedure during Covid but the offices I went to went above and beyond with sterilization. I felt super safe.
If we were to meet for coffee, I’d ask if you’d had any medical or dental work done lately and if so how did you feel about the office. Also, have you ever had that moment of…”is this doctor calling me a badass or a dumbass?” Because honestly, this isn’t my first time.
If we were to meet for coffee, I’d talk about steps I’ve been taking to build my own little “horseshoe” as Glennon Doyle would say. I realized that I’ve spent far too much of my life trying to fit into circles that I don’t fit into. So instead I’ve been intentionally reaching out to and making time for people who I think I mesh with better. I need to hang with weirdos and GD cheetah’s only, if you know what I mean 😉
If we were to meet for coffee I’d ask if you ever find yourself still trying to fit into circles and spaces you don’t fit into. I’d also want to know some of your favorite horseshoe building tips are, since I’m an introvert trying to reach out!
If we were to meet for coffee I’d talk about how I’m definitely treating August as a fresh start. I’m looking forward to some new energy and new adventures. With school starting this month we’re getting into some new routines.
If we were to meet for coffee I’d ask if you have any intentions or plans for this new month.
If we were to meet for coffee I’d ask what you have on your mind. Then I’d listen, really listen. Because that’s always what I try to do on coffee dates! (Although sometimes I fail miserably, especially when I’m excited about something. Sorry, gotta be honest.) So what’s on your mind?
-Kristen
So sorry about the root canal! Luckily I haven’t had to go to the dr or the dentist — although I do need to go to the dentist at some point. I spend most of my time taking the dogs to vets.
I’m an introvert too. I know people who think they are one, but they really aren’t. So yeah, I get the whole meshing thing too.
My biggest plan for August is to keep trying my husband out for daytrips. Not easy! He’s not really an introvert, but, inertia.
LOL on high pain tolerance vs. idiocy. After ignoring a DVT blood clot for a few weeks (that was 10+ years ago) I try not to wait to get things checked out, but I did suffer through an over-active thyroid last summer before getting a diagnosis in the fall, so maybe I’m still on the idiot side of the line.
I hadn’t heard of the “horseshoe” phrase before. Honestly, aside from a few longtime friends and a few friends at work, I mostly rely on my running community for support — but those aren’t real deep friendships.
OOF so sorry about the dental work but man those are worth it to not be in pain anymore . Gosh I never think about whipped cream in my coffee. BRB adding that to the grocery delivery! 🙂
Glad girlies birthday was a success!
And ALL THE TIME. I never feel like I fit in anywhere. Sort of the square peg=round hole syndrome thing. So I stick to the people who I do know accept me for who I am without judgement or fail. It’s so much easier to be yourself than maintain who you aren’t. I’m just me. Take it or leave it! <3
Goodness, it sounds like you’re about as bad as me!
The idea is that horseshoes are open, with room for others. Circles are closed. So we should always stand in and be in horseshoes of friends rather than circles.
Thanks!! Wish you lived closer fellow weirdo!
Those day trips sound fun! Inertia can be so hard to fight but worth it.
ooh sounds like it’s a been a rough few weeks for you! Dental issues are the worst. Glad you were able to get it taken care of. Hope it’s feeling ok now. Yes some weeks or months are just tougher than other for sure. Hope August is better for you. Thanks for stopping by for coffee-definitely go for that whipped cream!
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I am so, so sorry. Tooth pain due to abscessed teeth = the worstttt. I had that 2 years ago along with a cheek/palate abscess + it was the worst pain I’d ever experienced. I’m really glad you’re feeling better! I recently had a dental appointment and they definitely did as much as they could to help with sterilization!